Self-discipline. Let’s be honest. For most of us, it’s a work in progress wrapped in good intentions, procrastination, and feelings of failure. But it doesn’t have to be. Self-discipline, like everything else, is a practice. Not every day will be perfect, but each day -- with its failures and small wins -- is progress, and that’s what self-discipline is all about.

I’ve rounded up steps you can take today to build self-discipline. Coupled with a healthy understanding of what self-discipline is and a little inspiration, this post gives you the tools you need to develop a practice of self-discipline in everything you do.

Self-Discipline Quotes

1. “Willpower is what separates us from the animals. It’s the capacity to restrain our impulses, resist temptation – do what’s right and good for us in the long run, not what we want to do right now. It’s central, in fact, to civilization.” -Dr. Roy Baumeister, Ph.D.
   
   
2. “The only way to do something in depth is to work hard. The moment you start being in love with what you’re doing, and thinking it’s beautiful or rich, then you’re in danger.” -Miuccia Prada
   
   
3. “One painful duty fulfilled makes the next plainer and easier.” -Helen Keller
   
   
4. “This quality of self-denial in pursuit of a longer-term goal and, indeed, the willpower to maintain the denial, is excellent training for the boardroom.” -John Viney
   
   
5. “I used to walk down the street like I was a superstar… I want people to walk around delusional about how great they can be – and then to fight so hard for it every day that the lie becomes the truth.” -Lady Gaga
   
   
6. “We don’t have to be smarter than the rest; we have to be more disciplined than the rest.” -Warren Buffett
   
   
7. “My will shall shape my future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.” -Elaine Maxwell
   
   
8. “It doesn’t matter whether you are pursuing success in business, sports, the arts, or life in general: The bridge between wishing and accomplishing is discipline.” -Harvey Mackay
   
   
9. “Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” -Oprah Winfrey
   
   
10. “Your ability to discipline yourself to set clear goals, and then to work toward them every day, will do more to guarantee your success than any other single factor.” -Brian Tracy
    
    
11. “Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.” -Anne Sweeney
    
    
12. “The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person.” -Stephen Covey
    
    
13. “It is our choices, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” -J.K. Rowling
    
    
14. “Willpower is the key to success. Successful people strive no matter what they feel by applying their will to overcome apathy, doubt or fear.” -Dan Millman
    
    
15. “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes -- understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” -Arianna Huffington

What is Self-Discipline?

Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should be doing. Self-discipline often means putting off your immediate comfort or wishes in favor of long term success. For example, if you want to become physically fit, you might endure the short-term discomfort of 5:00 a.m. gym times to attain the long term benefits of being healthy and feeling great.

In “The Chimp Paradox,” Dr. Steve Peters explains we’re already the people we wish to be. Our emotional mind simply stops us from behaving how we need to achieve our ideal state. Self-discipline gives us the ability to overcome our emotional mind by moving forward with physical action.

Developing self-discipline does more than help you get ahead in your career. It’s been proven to help people:

1. Achieve long term goals - Self-discipline allows people to resist immediate wants in support of higher-impact, longterm goals. Grit guru Angela Duckworth speaks to this in her 2016 research on perseverance and “passion for longterm goals,” also known as grit. Her study found “the achievement of difficult goals entails not only talent but also a sustained and focused application of talent over time,” or what we would call self-discipline.
   
   
2. Decrease anxiety - When we’re stressed, we each have our vices (Hi, my name is Meg and I procrastinate when stressed). When we experience negative emotions, humans tend to distract themselves by doing or thinking about something else. In fact, a 2016 study found improving self-control may help students deal with anxiety-related problems during school testing.
   
   
3. Increase physical health - This is likely pretty obvious, but people who demonstrate regular self-discipline are better able to resist the use of health-damaging substances like tobacco and alcohol. Self-control is also linked to lower rates of obesity and addiction.
   
   
4. Positively impact relationships - Yep, self-discipline can also make your relationships better. Psychology Today says, “The capacity for self-control is a capacity for empathetic perspective taking -- the ability to step outside one’s own point of view.” Taking these steps allows us to override our automatic defensive reactions and adopt more constructive behaviors contributing to healthier, happier relationships.
   
   
5. Become more resilient - Do you bounce back easily after adversity? Self-discipline can be a predictor of resilience. Apparently, the more resilient you are, the better control you have over impulses and delayed gratification. Psychology Today says, “A resilient person has a belief in her own abilities to manage life’s challenges and situations effectively.”
   
   
6. Feel happier - The more productive you are, the more creative and happy you are. The more we feel in control of the origin of our behavior, the better sense of well-being we have -- and that makes us happy!

How to Build Self-Discipline

1. Know where you struggle
2. Know how you succeed
3. Identify and write down clear goals
4. Visualize your outcome
5. Don’t wait for it to feel right
6. Start small
7. Get a mentor
8. Practice, fail, start over
9. Know how you’ll measure progress
10. Take care of yourself
11. Treat yo’self
12. Forgive yo’self

1. Know where you struggle

Start by writing down what you do in a day. Then, reflect on what you value and ask yourself whether your behaviors uphold those values. There are likely a few things you’re doing each day that don’t honor those values (hey, we’re only human -- we’ve all got a few).

During the identification phase, it’s helpful to ask for feedback from the colleagues, mentors, and family who know us best. See if there’s overlap between how others see your actions and how you’ve self-identified your weaknesses.

Once you’ve honed in on a few areas to improve, put together a plan of attack, such as, “One of my weaknesses is to procrastinate calling prospects until it’s too late in the day. This puts me behind for the rest of the week and makes it tough to meet quota. Tomorrow, I’m going to make X calls first thing when I get to the office.”

2. Know how you succeed

Greeting your coworkers and asking about their evenings. A trip to the kitchen for coffee. Team lunch. An afternoon walk to the local coffee shop. All of these small trips add up to a lot of time away from work. It’s important to build relationships with coworkers and give yourself mental and physical breaks throughout the day.

But it’s also important to be honest about your work patterns. If your mornings are consumed by non-work-related events and that’s when you’re most productive -- that’s not good. Know when you do your best work and schedule around it.

If you’re most dialed in from 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m., schedule those coworker coffee breaks for the afternoon. Protect your ability to succeed at work. You’ll promote a healthier environment for yourself and healthier results for your company.

3. Identify and write down clear goals

Did you know you’re 42% more likely to achieve your goals if you write them down? The act of writing down goals forces you to visualize the goal itself, how to achieve it, and what steps you need to take to get there.

So, before you set out to become the best version of yourself -- whether at work or in your personal life -- identify your goals and write them down.

4. Visualize your outcome

Your brain doesn’t differentiate between real and imagined memories. So, when you imagine something vividly, your brain chemistry changes as if you’d actually experienced it.

Visualizing positive outcomes like, “When I make it to the top of our activity board, I’m going to treat myself to an excellent dinner,” gives you the positive feelings associated with ascending to the head of the leaderboard while reducing feelings of insecurity. This makes it easier for you to overcome feelings of fear and take actionable steps toward achieving your goals.

5. Don’t wait for it to feel right

If you wait for your schedule to be perfect, your desk to be clutter-free, or your inbox to reach a manageable level, you might never get started on the work that needs to be done. Embrace every moment as having just what you need to do your best work -- because, well, it does.

6. Start small

Inspired by this list? Ready to wreck your bad habits and transform yourself into the ideal salesperson or employee? Start small. Overhauling your work habits in one week is a recipe for burnout and disaster.

Instead, pick a few small habits to focus on each week. For week one, you might decide to bring your coffee to the office to avoid the morning rabbit hole known as “the break room” in favor of getting right to work.

With a week of success under your belt, you might block a few hours on your calendar every Friday afternoon to finish up administrative tasks like adding prospect notes to the CRM or replying to outstanding emails. After a few weeks of improving one habit at a time -- you might surprise yourself with how much more productive and self-disciplined you’ve become.

7. Get a mentor

There are things you can discuss with a mentor you might not be comfortable approaching with a colleague or manager. If I want to stop wasting so much time on social media when I’m supposed to be prospecting, I might feel better bringing that challenge to my mentor rather than my boss.

Mentors generally have more experience, know you well, and can give you the unvarnished advice and feedback you need to succeed -- not only in your current job but in your career.

8. Practice, fail, start over

It’s not that those with self-discipline never have days where they eat all the doughnuts in the kitchen, spend 45 minutes on social media, and lose two prospects -- all before 10:00 a.m.. It’s that they do these things, then they wake up the next morning and try to make better decisions.

Self-discipline is the act of trying, failing, and trying again.

9. Know how you’ll measure progress

Source:  Meg Prater, HubSpot