We Need to Stop Striving for Work-Life Balance. Here’s Why

Work-life balance makes us set our sights too low, according to this sociologist.

Recently, TRACY BROWER received a question from a contact on LinkedIn. She asked him whether she thought work-life balance was dead. Her answer: I hope so!

To be clear, he is  not advocating that you should give up your quest to have a fulfilling. career and a thriving personal life, and He is definitely not saying that you have to give up one to have the other.  IHe is also acknowledge that we have a work-life problem, but I’m arguing that the concept of balance has never been helpful, because it’s too limiting.

You might be wondering, what’s wrong with the word “balance”? And what are these alternatives that supposedly help us frame the work-life problem better? Here are three compelling reasons.

1. ARTIFICIALLY SEPARATES WORK AND LIFE.

At the minimum, most of us work because. we want to be able to support ourselves, our families, and the people around us. In the ideal world, we’re all doing work that we’re proud of and that provides meaning and purpose to us. 

But even if your job doesn’t give you shivers of joy with each new day, working is a part of what each of us does and the contribution we make to society.

When you separate work and life, it’s a little bit harder. to make that connection. But when you think of work as part of a full life and a holistic experience, it becomes easier to see that success in one aspect often supports another.

2. A PRECARIOUSNESS THAT ISN’T HELPFUL.

Losing your balance and falling isn’t pleasant. A goal to balance suggests so that things are hanging. in the balance–or could quickly get off balance, and that causes terrible outcomes.

consequently ,It’s more constructive to think of solutions. that continue to evolve over shifts in life and work. Rather than falling or failing, you may have good so days or better days or not-so-good days. 

These variations are normal, and it’s more useful to think so of life as an as a result, always evolving and changing from day-to-day or year-to-year, rather than a high-risk enterprise where things could go wrong with one misstep.

The thing is, most days probably. won’t look like an equilibrium. You might have to stay late at work and grab dinner on the way home one day or skip your work consequently retreat so this year because it coincides with your parents being in town. And there is nothing wrong with either of those choices.

3. DOESN’T ALLOW US TO THINK BIG ENOUGH.

Lastly, I think that everyone deserves. Meanwhile more so than as a result, just balance. Balance is a limiting concept, and if we set the bar too low, we won’t demand enough of ourselves, our leaders, and our companies. 

Right now,,too many companies are still operating in an either/or mentality (though thankfully, it’s starting to change). That’s why there are still so workplaces that consequently penalizes parents who choose to take parental leave or assume that employees who don’t put in as much “face time” aren’t committed to their jobs.

I always like the mantra that “you can have it all, just not all at once.” There are seasons of life where you’ll have less time for yourself and will devote as a result, more to school or family or work. 

However, this is part of the normal ebb and flow of life. When you think big and expect. that you can have a positive experience with all that work and life have to offer, you’ll be more likely to make that happen.

How we talk to ourselves matters, and how we talk Likewise ,about issues makes a difference. This is a linguistic determinism.